It might be with food, sex, gambling, or even something as nebulous as procrastination or a compulsion to gossip. Perhaps it’s an obsession with nicotine, using cigars, cigarettes or vaping devices to self-administer that powerful, psycho-active drug. Regardless of the name of the substance or vice, all bad habits stem from brokenness that is directly tied to the emotional energy spun out of a dark force called resentment. What the book says is that the only thing that will solve our drink problem is a spiritual awakening, spiritual experience, attitude adjustment, or psychic change. These illustrate Sober Home how the 12 step programme can help with an emotion dysregulation disorder. If we start by trying to recover from alcoholism and addiction and find we still have other issues then obviously address these with outside professional and specialist help. Alcoholics and children of alcoholics have a tendency to avoid emotions in fact and to use emotional reasoning when arguing a point. The spiritual principles of AA and the 12 steps in particular were drawn from the 4 absolutes of the Oxford group, via initially the 6 steps and the idea of a spiritual malady is also borrowed from the Oxford group.
Bill Wilson had got this idea of abnormal, or allergic reaction to alcohol, from a physician, Dr Silkworth, who had treated him at Towns Hospital. The solution to your alcoholism is the same as the solution to their alcoholism. The original power greater than himself, as for millions of alcoholics over the last 80 years is another alcoholic. One recovering alcoholic or a group of recovering alcoholics is a power greater than oneself. Not enough action, or effort to change my feelings define spiritual malady in a healthy manner. I also have other ways of reacting in an emotionally unhealthy way that my step 4 showed. I was working with someone last year and we had a disagreement and this guy said to me “I am upset” and “You have hurt my feelings” I was taken aback. This guy was an Olympic champion at expressing how he feels compared to me. I never say I am upset because it also seems to be an undifferentiated emotion that I have trouble accessing, mentalising and expressing.
Why is it called Rule 62 in AA?
It is the emptiness we feel on such a deep level that we turn to self-medication in order to alleviate the sadness and despair that go hand in hand with. But in our quest to fill this void with any and everything we can think of, we completely miss that the only thing that can actually fulfill us a spiritual connectedness to something greater than ourselves. Frequently, individuals who struggle with alcohol addiction are also experiencing a mental health issue like an anxiety disorder or a depressive disorder. Abusing alcohol is a form of self-medicating that, at first and superficially, seems to help. However, it quickly becomes apparent that doing so is only masking the underlying issues. Similarly, those who struggle with alcohol addiction are more susceptible to developing a mental health issue. When this occurs, individuals are experiencing what experts refer to as a co-occurring disorder. It is treated through dual diagnosis, which looks to address both the physical addiction and mental health issues affecting the individual.
I define it as soul and it can have symptoms as described in that letter on the “spiritual malady”. I treat it by continuing to take the suggestions of alcoholics anonymous as relates to recovery, unity, and service. As Ann said…..it is more then just the physical craving, or the mental obsession because the physical craving was very short lived for me and the mental obsession to drink has been gone for some time. Jaywalker Lodge drug and alcohol treatment center offering a 12-step rehab immersion program in Colorado, for motivated men. The way humans think is on a spectrum of self-centeredness and god-centeredness. When dealing with the disease of alcoholism we are selfish and self-centered beings.
What defines alcoholism?
We can not rely on our thoughts and feelings or, in other words, our Self Will. Our self will has become impaired and is no longer in the service of our successful survival. We have difficulties in our relationships with others, these relationships are often unhealthy and ill. Some of us have this knawing feeling of not being good enough, have a hole in the soul which we are/were kinda always unconsciously trying to protect, shield from the world.
Amazing how fast folks r to demonize drug use when we cant agree on its true nature. Disorder? Disease? Disability? Illness? Character flaw? Spiritual malady? Personal choice? None of the above? How about human right? A society’s response 2 drug use starts with how they define it
— Khary Rigg (@krigg01) December 15, 2018
Spiritual things are not merely religion but are defined by each individual uniquely as the guiding force in their lives-something that is greater than them or principles they live by. My spiritual malady consisted of a conviction that I was the God in and of my own life. This conviction affected my thinking and actions, that in turn affected the lifes of everyone around me. It ultimately left me feeling miserable time and again.
The great psychiatrist Carl Jung called this a ‘low level thirst for wholeness – for union with God’. In our addictions, we tried to quench our soul-thirst with fleeting pleasures. The pursuit of them dominated our lives, destroyed relationships, and caused greater desperation than we ever thought possible. We became selfish and self-seeking, ever thirsting for more, and this lust warped us on every level. But we were never satisfied, because but the living presence of God can quench our parched souls. Spirituality often varies in definition and in practice—however, it’s ultimately about connecting to something greater than ourselves to live a happier life. It asks them to allow themselves to have a new experience of what these things can mean to them. In other words, the spirituality we encourage at MARR is not a dogmatic set of beliefs. Instead, we help our clients foster an open attitude to trying new solutions.
- It is sad that countless addicts and alcoholics have rejected 12 Step recovery because the G_d word is up on the wall and included in prayers and literature.
- Below are some of the most common questions asked about consuming alcohol and alcoholism.
- So if you find yourself getting caught up on the spiritual nature of recovery, don’t.
- The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous discusses many steps that are involved in the recovery process.
- Once you open up to this idea and implement that spiritual connection, you will experience your long-awaited spiritual awakening, the answer to that pesky spiritual malady we suffer from as alcoholics.
- But many of us resisted, even long into to our recovery.
The spiritual malady is the result of my being out of order with my higher power who I choose to call God. I was the director in the drama of life and managing the world so I could get what I thought I needed to feel ok. Fear and resentment dominated my thoughts and I made decisions based on self which caused me harm and harmed others. Therefore my illness is a result of relying on self. Especially being alcoholic more often than not, it is our nature to have that “my way or the highway” mentality. Intellectually, believing in something we cannot physically see or a scientifically proven exists is a hard pill to swallow, those intellectual individuals shut the idea out completely. These core beliefs make it harder for us to connect with a god of our understanding.
The psychology and neuropsychology of alcoholism, addictive behaviour and recovery.
In fact our first “spiritual” wakening was probably the result of drinking as it transformed how we felt about ourselves and the world in which we lived. In fact, I felt “more me” when I drank, it was like I escaped a restrictive sense of self to be a more expansive, people loving self. I had a connection with the world I could not generate myself, when sober. Selfishness and self -centeredness is the root of my trouble. My troubles are of my own making and arise out my living a life run on self-will.
As we dive deep into the malady of legalism, let’s define the word to keep us all on the same page: Christian legalism is seeking to attain, gain, or maintain acceptance with God, or achieve spiritual growth, through keeping a written or unwritten code or standard of performance.
— Freedom in Christ-US (@FICM_US) April 11, 2019
By the time we arrived I hated my family, wanted to leave them, was cross for the way they treated poor poor me; it was all just so unfair – and I really REALLY wanted a drink. I had a look at the link you posted, and it seems to be saying the spiritual malady is our “inward unmanageability”. I found a nice description of the physcial, the mental, and the spiritual in this thread from over a year ago. Sobriety is drug avoidance, abstinence from compulsive behaviors, and improved bio-psycho-social health. You are only as sober as you do these three things, and the less you do them, the less heavy it is for you to stay clean. Steps 4 -7 and the amends to those people wronged in steps of 8 and 9 allow us to be completely free and in a sense reborn. In steps 4 and 5 we listed wrongdoings to others and although initially petrified to share them with another, found that it wasn’t as difficult as we thought it would be, once you wrote down the worst top ten. These secrets are the emotional and psychic scars of our alcoholic past and they need to be exposed in order for us to fully heal. Almost disappointingly I found some of my sins were quite tame when compared to other people I have spoken to in recovery. Most active ingredients accounting for AA’s benefit are social in nature, such as attending meetings, and the 12 steps mention “we” 6 times but not “I” once.
What Does a Spiritual Malady Feel Like?
When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet. We have found much of heaven and we have been rocketed into a fourth dimension of existence of which we had not even dreamed. To fill the void of my spiritual malady….I of course blamed God!. What I didn’t realize was that God, like any loving parent, waits patiently for me to come home to Him when I am done rebelling. At that time I would only call “home” to him when something was wrong and then would curse him if it/they failed. God can’t dwell in the darkness that I was in until I sought him. He could, would, and did once I let him in sobriety. Is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.
A decade of therapy also showed Bill Wilson he has two default settings in his relationship to other human beings – he either tried to dominate them or he became dependent on them for his sense of self and emotional well being. In other words, he became dependent on others, on external means for approval and elevating his self esteem. Most of my distress and emotional pain in recovery comes from wanting stuff, and not getting my way or not accepting things as they are. Our spiritual malady causes us to be restless, irritable, and discontented. The reason we cannot just quit is that our mind constantly has us believe that we can control and enjoy our drinking. No matter what the consequences were in the past, our mind will be obsessed with the thought of drinking. Recovered means free from the obsession and constant struggle to stay sober. That will be lifted if you correctly follow the twelve steps in the book. Alcoholics Anonymous, the book that was created in the late 1930s was used to get people sober. Alcoholics would read and follow the steps in the book and get sober.
What is meant by unmanageable?
Definition of unmanageable
: not manageable : difficult or impossible to control or manage unmanageable hair an almost unmanageable amount of data The prisoner became unmanageable. an unmanageable temper an unmanageable number of students for one teacher an unmanageable amount of debt.
For me the “spiritual malady” is underpinned by an emotion disorder and makes us over reactive as you say. The Oxford Group said it was a sin disease just as real as any other physical malady, I intend to agree. Sins to me are negative emotions such as self centredness, intolerance, impatience, self pity that impact on my well bing and the well being of others etc. Negative emotions that cut me off from sanity and reason. They do not necessarily come from a Judea-Christian belief structure, just from my own awareness, 12 step practice and years of Neursocience research. The spiritual illness that we faced acted as a catalyst for our addiction, and every attempt to self-medicate our spiritual malady pushed us deeper and deeper into the disease.
Feeding the God in me by service to His children is the only way I found to freedom from the looping of my personal hell. To me, spirituality is the pursuit of a non-intellectual investigation of cause and effect. Also seek the Carl Jung Letters Ann can help you access those. Carl Jung responded to a letter of thanks that Bill W had sent to him. That response from Jung may lead you to some further understanding. An AA book titled Pass It On has this letter reprinted in it also. If you have that book, look in the index for “Carl Jung Letters”. Bill Wilson read the book “Varieties Of Religious Experience” by Dr. Wm.